Finding love these days is about as easy as solving a Rubik’s cube blindfolded. Between endless dating app rabbit holes, schedules that never seem to line up, and decoding mixed signals from matches… well, it’s exhausting. But here to help demystify the complexities of modern love is Michelle G. She is the go-to matchmaker for the who’s who of Hollywood and corporate America. Join us as we delve into the mind of one of today’s most sought-after relationship experts.
Michelle, you’ve worked with so many celebrities and executives over the years, what are some of the unique challenges they face in their relationships that might surprise people?
So here’s what I’ve found, there tends to be 3 main issues:
For starters, the status of a celebrity or high-achiever often attracts people drawn to their success rather than their true selves, making it difficult to find authentic connections. They must deal with the internal struggle of constantly questioning the motives of others, left wondering if they’re loved for who they are or simply because of what they bring to the table.
Secondly, high achievers are driven by their demanding schedules which can leave little room for intimacy and quality time. This creates an issue of imbalance in time and energy leaving the partners of high achievers to feel neglected or secondary to their careers, ultimately creating emotional distance in the relationship.
Lastly, power dynamics in a couple can create challenges. When one of both partners are highly successful, it can unintentionally breed competition or feelings of inadequacy particularly if one partner in the relationship feels overshadowed by the other’s accomplishments.
How do you help them overcome these obstacles?
Overcoming these challenges is absolutely possible, which is why I use a date coaching approach rooted in empathy, accountability, and personalized strategies tailored to each client. In my opinion, prioritizing communication is the foundation to having a successful relationship. Therefore, I teach high achievers how to open up about their needs and fears. By creating safe spaces, they learn vulnerability, discernment, and develop emotional intelligence.
Additionally, helping them find balance in their schedule with a focus on prioritizing their love life is important to avoid work from encroaching on their personal lives. By addressing these and other areas, it empowers high-achievers to experience more balanced, fulfilling, and authentic relationships, giving them the tools to thrive both personally and professionally.
You mention using a blend of science and psychology in your approach, could you share a specific example of how you’ve applied scientific research to help a client shift their dating patterns?
Absolutely! A common question singles I work with ask is, “Why do I keep falling for people who treat me like an option?” One client I worked with faced this exact issue. They continually pursued partners who showed unpredictable interest and emotional unavailability. Research calls this pattern, variable ratio reinforcement, this concept, rooted in behavioral science, explains how inconsistent rewards, like the occasional sweet moment in an otherwise unreliable relationship, creates a cycle of emotional craving, much like what makes gambling addictive.
Once we identified this pattern, I explained how their brain was associating those fleeting moments of affection with intense emotional highs rather than seeing the relationship for what it was, unstable. Using this insight, we shifted their focus to breaking the cycle and developed a strategy to rewire their behavior. By pairing scientific understanding with actionable steps, they were able to shift their dating approach, break free from toxic patterns, and create space for a stable, fulfilling relationship.
Having worked with so many successful people, what’s the most common misconception you see them bringing into their dating lives that holds them back from finding love?
The most common misconception I’ve found is believing that the same skills that drive their career success will work in their pursuit of love!
But that’s just not how it works… approaching relationships like a checklist or a goal to achieve places the focus on attaining instead of forging genuine connections. For example, I’ve seen clients struggle because they treat dating like a business deal, focusing too much on external qualities like status or accomplishments, rather than building deeper emotional bonds. Remember that relationships thrive on vulnerability, emotional connection and mutual growth which results in experiencing real intimacy.
Instant gratification often overshadows genuine connection, how can singles shift their mindset to prioritize meaningful, lasting relationships over hook ups and fleeting encounters?
The key here is to prioritize meaningful, lasting relationships in a world of instant gratification is to shift from a “quick results” mindset to one of intention and patience. Celebrities and executives often excel in their careers because they focus on long-term goals and strategic thinking. The same principles apply to dating.
First, I encourage singles to define their non-negotiables or core values and qualities they need in a partner for a truly fulfilling connection. When you’re clear about what you want, it’s easier to filter out distractions that don’t align with your goals. If you need help, we have a tool to help.
Second, pay attention to self-sabotage because it can also quietly derail your dating life. Overthinking every interaction can stop you from being authentic, vulnerability connects, not perfection. Holding onto old stories like “I always get hurt” or “there’s no one good left” shapes your reality more than you realize. And if you’re too busy with work or distractions to prioritize dating, you might be unintentionally avoiding the emotional work love requires.
Finally, I help my clients reframe dating as a journey of self-discovery, not just a search for someone else. By understanding their own patterns and emotional needs, they can make choices that align with who they are at their core, rather than reacting to external pressures or trends.
Meaningful relationships require slowing down, being intentional, and valuing quality over quantity. When you approach love with that mindset, you’re not just finding a partner, you’re building a partnership.
How has the modern dating landscape evolved since you started your career, and what adjustments do you recommend they make to navigate today’s dating environment?
Dating has transformed dramatically over the past decade, largely driven by technology. Meeting partners has shifted from school, work, or friends to primarily online platforms. The stigma around online dating is gone, but here’s the catch: too many singles treat these apps as the solution rather than the starting point. Behind every profile are two people navigating the vulnerable and messy process of courtship—a truth that hasn’t changed.
What also remains the same are the struggles: ghosting, breadcrumbing, love bombing, and situationships. These behaviors have always existed; we’ve simply given them names and normalized talking about them.
My advice? Treat online dating as a tool, not the entire process. Focus on building real connections beyond the screen. Approach dating with intentionality and boundaries, because while the methods may have evolved, the fundamentals of finding love—respect, vulnerability, and effort—will never go out of style.
Any last words of wisdom or advice?
Expand your horizons and consider dating someone outside of your usual ‘type’ even if it means crossing cultural boundaries. Don’t buy into the misconceptions surrounding intercultural dating, because the truth is, these relationships offer incredible opportunities for personal growth, cultural awareness, and building fulfilling connections.
Sure, it can be both rewarding and challenging, but the key lies in being open to learning about each other’s cultural backgrounds, values, and beliefs while embracing your differences. Engage in open and honest conversations, practice empathy, and remember that patience is key when navigating the cultural nuances of dating. Approach these differences with sensitivity and respect, steer clear of stereotypes, and seek support whenever necessary.
Bio: Telly award winner, certified matchmaker to the stars, author, host of an award-winning TV show and nationally sought-after dating & relationship expert, Michelle G has one mission: to help the world’s leading entrepreneurs, executives, celebrities and A-listers navigate the modern love landscape and find their person.
As the CEO of Incredible Love, Michelle G brings her unique blend of science, psychology and understanding of the human psyche to her audience sharing her dating and relationship expertise on national outlets such as TLC, NBC, Telemundo, VH1 & Notoriety Network’s Fix My Love Life with Michelle G. With a 96% success rate and many years of expertise she has helped countless people find and keep the love they want and improve their relationships with themselves. Follow Michelle on Instagram
